Forgive and forget...

FORGIVE AND FORGET

Misunderstandings and conflicts are a part of life. The problem is that most of us avoid resolving them and turn them into an ego battle. In the process we miss out on precious moments of love. We have very little time to waste on ego battles since life is uncertain. Focus on a problem troubling you at the point. Try to recollect every incident with details; don’t hold back any emotions. Close your eyes and ask yourself whether you want to resolve it.

If yes consider three things

1. Do you desire to solve the problem?
2. Do you need to let go of your ego?
3. Do you need to communicate freely and opening with?

 

Then three techniques can help you

1. Talk face to face.
2. Make a call.
3. Write a letter.

Talk face to face

The simplest and easiest way, it simply requires you to take the first step. Be prepared to resolve things, stay positive in your mind and in approach. Initiate the talk by telling the person that – “I have a problem and the only person who can help me is you”. Don’t say “I have a problem with you and I want to discuss it”. The latter sets a pace for more arguments. Speak your heart out with that person. Focus on the problem rather than actions; avoiding getting personal and say committed to the fact that you want to solve this. Ensure that you allow the other to speak, as you empathetically listen. If there is little bit of criticism, take it with an open mind – keep telling that person you want to be friends again, and that he/she is important. More often that, not this will solve the problem. Even if you are not successful, at least you gave it your best shot.

Make a call

            Most of the times we are unable to find enough courage to talk face to face with the person {with whom we have a misunderstanding}. In such cases, be positive and find a right time to talk to the person. Find out whether, he has a little time. Repeat what has been described in the first technique. You will for sure experience that the person too would equally be forward to patch back. That love, care and bound where always there between the tow only for time the ego had taken over.

Write a Letter

            If speaking to the other person seems difficult, try writing a letter. This is because your mind tells you that are right and the other person is wrong, thus it is he who should actually apologize. However, you have decided to take the first step, so you have to write the letter. While you do so, you will notice that you will begin to make spelling mistakes, or grammar mistakes, else your hand writing will go haywire. All this happens because of the conflict of the mind, which says it was not your fault and the heart, which says lets, solve this problem. But continue writing and finally ensure the letter reaches the person. Remember to write positive things in the letter and communicate your desire to get back to the person. This act of your will break the barriers.

            Find a reason to smile rather than finding reasons to fight. Let’s understand that getting into problems is quite natural and to do nothing about it is quite common. However, to get the maximum out of your life you have to grow out of false ego and live life with lots of zeal and joy. Live life to the fullest.

Life is very short never know when the end comes and you would realize it very late when everything is over.